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Enneagram Type 4: The Romantic
Definitions used in describing each type
“Lost” essential quality:
An experience of the original deep and complete connection to everything.
belief: Something vitally important is missing and must be regained to relieve the painful feeling of deficiency and loss of connection.
Searching for the ideal love or circumstances that will make you feel loved, whole and complete again. Putting attention on intense feelings concerning that which you view as important and missing.
Trap: Trying to obtain the special, ultimate love or situation that will make you complete.
Driving energy: Envy and longing, fueling the search for whatever seems necessary to make life fulfilling.
Avoidance: Being ordinary, deficient, lacking.
Strengths: Creative disposition, passion, empathy, emotional depth.
Paradox: Wanting what is missing perpetuates dissatisfaction with what is present.
Path of development:
Reclaiming wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is here and now, and accepting yourself as you are without needing to be special and unique.
- Focus on what is positive in the present
- Be consistent in action despite fluctuating and intense feelings
- Recognize that feelings are not the only reality
- Appreciate the ordinary
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