The Enneagram in Relationships

Extraordinarily precise, the Enneagram allows you to look deeply within yourself and to create healthier relationships with your partner, family members, friends, clients and co-workers. The insights gained through an understanding of the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition quickly turn to compassion when you become receptive and can see through the eyes of another.

relationships-video-wideThrough an appreciation of each other’s worldview, the Enneagram helps us to be more present and openhearted, and gives us tools to work together through conflicts. Beyond type differences, the Enneagram’s 27 instinctual subtypes also have an important influence on relationship dynamics. Understanding how subtypes influence our behavior and attention helps us manage our own reactivity and be more sensitive to the needs and concerns of others.

“We all have others in our lives, and to the extent that we do, there will always be challenges and ways we each see the world differently. When I understand the Enneagram, it really helps me see from their point of view instead of from my own patterns, and that builds compassion immediately because I no longer take the other person’s behavior personally. Before we know the Enneagram, we tend to think that everybody looks through the same lenses we do. But the Enneagram describes nine different yet equally powerful lenses, and when we understand our family members, coworkers and friends through these patterns, it improves relationships almost automatically.”  
- Terry Saracino

Learn more about intimate and business relationships in Helen Palmer’s book, The Enneagram in Love and Work.